Dealing With Mom
So my Mom came into town - as she does every Summer - for the entire Summer. And as happens every year - she expects me to not have anything going on and I can do all of these things with her.
But what really aggravates me is how she thinks she can dictate what I do. Specifically - go to her church - a Catholic church.
Here are my problems with that:
1. It's not my church, not my religion, I have strong feelings against the Catholic church. I was not "born a sinner" and do not need the Catholic church to get me to heaven or wherever after I die. I especially do not need the Catholic church seeing how they are more guilty of offenses to what I believe how God wants us to act. Here's a few: Child molestation that was covered up and allowed to continue. Not allowing women to make their own decision in regards to their bodies - abortion rights. That gays and lesbians are somehow "bad" - I have many gay and lesbian friends - they are very good people.
2. When I go to church with my Mom, she gets this evil scowl on her face. Every time. People look, people stare - it looks like something is wrong. Combine this with growing up and having her scream DAILY "Damn you kids" whenever she became frustrated. So I see her getting this scowl - my pre-programmed brain thinks I have done something wrong, people are staring like something is wrong... it is just not worth it. I have told her that it is making me uncomfortable - and she claims it is because she takes church very seriously. So I tell her if she takes church so seriously then why can't she let me make my own decision as to what church I attend? Her reply - because I raised you as a Catholic. Or the even more insane response "because if I buy you brunch then I'm telling you to go to church." You see we usually had been going to brunch either before or after mass - that is until this past weekend. I said forget it. Not doing it anymore.
But what really aggravates me is how she thinks she can dictate what I do. Specifically - go to her church - a Catholic church.
Here are my problems with that:
1. It's not my church, not my religion, I have strong feelings against the Catholic church. I was not "born a sinner" and do not need the Catholic church to get me to heaven or wherever after I die. I especially do not need the Catholic church seeing how they are more guilty of offenses to what I believe how God wants us to act. Here's a few: Child molestation that was covered up and allowed to continue. Not allowing women to make their own decision in regards to their bodies - abortion rights. That gays and lesbians are somehow "bad" - I have many gay and lesbian friends - they are very good people.
2. When I go to church with my Mom, she gets this evil scowl on her face. Every time. People look, people stare - it looks like something is wrong. Combine this with growing up and having her scream DAILY "Damn you kids" whenever she became frustrated. So I see her getting this scowl - my pre-programmed brain thinks I have done something wrong, people are staring like something is wrong... it is just not worth it. I have told her that it is making me uncomfortable - and she claims it is because she takes church very seriously. So I tell her if she takes church so seriously then why can't she let me make my own decision as to what church I attend? Her reply - because I raised you as a Catholic. Or the even more insane response "because if I buy you brunch then I'm telling you to go to church." You see we usually had been going to brunch either before or after mass - that is until this past weekend. I said forget it. Not doing it anymore.
posted by Seestone at 8:54 AM
